The Tea with Tina
The Tea with Tina is going to be your new favorite weekly chit-chat that will feel like a good, juicy sit-down with your BFF. This podcast isn't your average (and boring) radio talk show-styled podcast. We dig deep, get personal, and have lots of fun along the way. Hear some relatable stories and a different perspective on various topics from health and fitness to pop culture. I am Tina Wieland, a certified fitness trainer and nutrition coach. Grab your caffeinated drink of choice, get comfortable, and be ready to hear the TEA.
The Tea with Tina
240 | The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Rewriting Your Internal Dialogue
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Have you ever stopped to wonder how the stories we tell ourselves influence our daily lives? Join me on Tea with Tina as I share my personal journey navigating the male-dominated fitness industry and uncover the transformative power of storytelling. From my own experiences overcoming societal stereotypes and personal doubts, I aim to inspire you to seek wisdom beyond your usual circles and recognize the potential within you. By reflecting on my upbringing and the limiting beliefs I've shed along the way, I hope to encourage you to embrace your unique path toward self-improvement and growth.
Let's challenge the negative self-talk that holds us back and start flipping the script. Dive into a conversation about transforming those ingrained negative thoughts into positive affirmations that foster personal growth and change. Drawing on a client's experience, I'll show you how altering self-imposed barriers can lead to significant life changes. By consistently embracing positivity and reshaping our internal narratives, we can embark on a powerful journey of self-discovery and transformation. Listen in and discover how changing the stories you tell yourself can open up a world of possibilities.
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Welcome to the Tea with Tina, your favorite podcast, where we talk all things health, fitness, lifestyle, and maybe a little bit of tea gets spilled. We chat all about this in a super casual environment, so grab your beverage of choice, sit back, relax and enjoy. Relax and enjoy. Hey friends, welcome back to another episode of the Tea with Tina podcast. If the audio sounds a little strange, I'm actually driving in my car. Might sound slightly dangerous, but I promise you you know with my phone and how I record audio, it's all good. So I want to pop into chat about something I'm always absorbing podcasts, reading posts and just observing and hearing and when I hear a message that I feel like would resonate with you all, I share it. You know, I always think about how things can integrate and I challenge you guys, wherever you're at you don't necessarily have to be a business owner to great. And I challenge you guys, wherever you're at. You don't necessarily have to be a business owner, but anybody who like, let's say, you're a nurse, for instance, okay, maybe you're really interested and you follow a lot of nurse pages, or you're an artist and you follow art pages. Whatever you do, I challenge you to follow things that are outside of your world, because you would be amazed at how they can relate to your current field, and sometimes much better. I feel like sometimes we get so absorbed in our current world, our little bubble, that we forget about things outside of it. So the message that I heard that I think is super important was something along the lines of the story that we tell ourselves matters, and this is important because I was somebody who lived this as someone that I like to call myself a little bit of an underdog, especially in the fitness realm. I am a woman. It's getting better but in a male-dominated industry there's a lot of stereotypes surrounding women in fitness, thinking that maybe they only want to be smaller and skinnier and they shouldn't be lifting heavy weights and they need to eat a certain way. They can't eat a lot of food. They can't grunt in the gym. You know there's a lot of stereotypes around women.
Speaker 1:I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's. I had all these hormonal imbalances that made my journey much harder. As far as cravings go, as far as how body fat is stored, it wasn't so cut and dry for me, and that's why I'm so passionate about helping other lifestyle people still achieve their goals with struggles similar to mine. I didn't want to necessarily have a shredded physique. I didn't want like. I didn't come from an athletic background. I was never in sports growing up and I feel like a lot of the professionals who've gotten into the space it's getting more diverse, which is great, but I feel like a lot of the professionals were athletes and they were kind of fit their whole lives. So it comes natural to them and me.
Speaker 1:I grew up eating fast food. You know Friday, saturday, sunday, my mom would make hot dogs and mac and cheese and spaghetti. You know really kind of traditional family dinners that were kind of processed and not super balanced. I was, you know, eating pop tarts for breakfast. You know I wasn't raised super healthy. I think I was raised kind of like how the average, maybe middle class American was raised.
Speaker 1:I'm not sure, don't quote me on that, but just in my experience and yeah, it's not like I was always fit and I always knew how to do things and I had a lot of doubt when I first started. I mean, I think all of us do I started relatively young. I think I really decided to go into fitness between the age of 17 and 18. I really got my foot in the door with, like Advocare, the MLM I was a part of. If you are interested in that story by the way, it is episode two of this podcast, so you can scroll all the way back I give you the tea on that story but Advocare really kind of helped me like dive into the fitness realm, get around like minded people and everything.
Speaker 1:But, like I said, there was just always this element of doubt and I see it in my clients sometimes and I think this is common for a lot of us. We have this doubt and women, men struggle too. I'm not here to call out and say like, oh, women struggle more than men. I think men's struggles are a little bit different than women. Women have this traditionally, this appearance to upkeep, and we have to be soft enough and feminine enough and not wear too much makeup, but wear enough. And men it's the same right, but they have to be masculine. And the providers of the family and, uh, you know they they're not allowed to cry, but they can't be too aggressive, so they have things to live up to too. But, um, I see it with my clients and it's because they, they, they don't get reach their results, they don't reach their goals because of the stories they tell themselves. I have one particular client in mind Uh, I don't think this is going to reveal anybody.
Speaker 1:I'm not going to, you know, share too many personal details. But this client I just can tell by the way she shows up in social media and the way she presents herself and talks about herself is in such a negative light and it's not my role to change this person. But you can just tell that there's a beautiful person under there and you may know family members, friends like this, maybe even catch yourself doing this. But you know when you can just see the potential of the person and for some reason, however, they were brought up, whatever happened to them in life, maybe it beat them down and they just live. They live this sort of life that you're like. You're better than that. I know you're better than that and I can tell that she wants to change because of her goals. But it's like she doesn't even realize, because she's been doing it for so long, how she talks about herself, what she posts, what she surrounds herself with, is caught. It's holding her back and again the stories we tell ourselves become our realities. Now, this can be a bad thing and this can be a good thing, you know, if you sit there and tell yourself that you can't.
Speaker 1:I see this with lifting. Okay, I can't tell you how many times I've loaded weight onto a barbell and I just told my clients to lift it. I didn't tell them how much weight it was, I just told them to lift it and they did it, no problem. My clients to lift it. I didn't tell them how much weight it was, I just told them to lift it and they did it, no problem. But if I told them the weight and in their brain the story they told themselves was this number is too heavy for me. Your body will hesitate and you actually will not be able to lift it. But once you overcome that story and you say I am strong, I'm able to lift this. Now, obviously there's some physical limitations here, right, but if it's more of a mental thing, you most certainly can overcome that. And I believe that if we tell ourselves you know, oh, I'm not somebody who eats healthy, you know, I just I'm a wine girl, I like to binge eat at night. If that's a story you tell yourself, that's the result you're going to get.
Speaker 1:It starts with your thoughts. Your change starts with your thoughts. I am a strong woman. I am smart. I do eat healthy. I enjoy eating healthy. When I want a treat, I enjoy a treat. I'm someone who will go to the gym and work out. I love going for walks. Start showing up in a positive way. Obviously, this can change and it can apply to anything. It can apply anything into your life. I am a patient mom. I'm very patient. I'm a patient mom. Um, I'm very patient. You know, I'm a loving mom. I love to take care of my body.
Speaker 1:You know, whatever your story is, I think so often we get caught up in doubt and maybe we don't even realize we're doing it. I think that's that's one of the problems, which, again, is why I teach everybody to be more self-aware, because there's so much that goes under the radar when it comes to our thoughts and our feelings and things. Our bodies are telling us that, like there's just so much that can somewhat be changed relatively easily and we're just not aware of it and we think, you know, if we buy this supplement, if we buy Ozempic, if we buy this program, if I do this, that's going to be the time I change, when in reality sometimes it's just a simple fix, like changing the story that we tell ourselves. So that is kind of my little thought. I'm getting close to my house now, but I wanted to get that out of my brain and into your brain. Um, so, think about that. That is my what.
Speaker 1:What stories do you tell yourself? You know, are you always shy? That was a big one for me. I'm just shy, you know. I'm somebody. Even with my Hashimoto's I caught myself doing I have Hashimoto's. I can't do that. I can't eat like that. I'm not somebody who wakes up early. That's just not me. Like. Why? Why the fuck not Excuse me, but why the fuck not Like, why can't you be someone who wakes up early? Why can't you be someone who does hard things? That's a great one to do. I can do hard things.
Speaker 1:Everybody needs to tell themselves that story, because I think we do live in a society where I love the convenience and I love that there's a lot of struggles that are made easier for us. But I think sometimes our primal brains and bodies need to be challenged with some things. And challenge is good, it keeps us strong, it's it's like training a muscle right, like it hurts and it makes us sore, but we get stronger so you can do hard things. Start telling yourself that there's so many stories. Think about the ones you tell yourself. Start switching them to the positive. Start challenging it.
Speaker 1:If it is a negative story, again start challenging it. Like, if you're like I don't go to bed early, like, can you say I do go to bed early, I'm someone who relaxes before bed, I'm somebody who takes time to myself at the end of the evening, I make time for myself. You know, just think about different ones. There's endless options and watch your life change. It's not going to be an overnight thing, but again, you know you were probably thinking negative stuff about yourself for years and years. So it's not going to undo overnight, but keep chugging away. Uh, the worst that can happen is you have some neg or you have some positive thoughts about yourself. Uh, and really, what is the downside of that? All right, so that is my, that is my gift to you today. Enjoy, ponder and have a great rest of your day. Bye.
